During the adolescence period, we all go through stages where we are figuring out ‘who we are’, and for a lot of us this could be figuring out what our sexual orientation and gender identity. If you are struggling to “come out” here is a few tips:
- Be patient – There is no rush to come out to friends and family. Coming out can be a timely process and you must do it when you are ready. Don’t allow yourself to feel pressured by anyone.
- Use a way that is best for you – Coming out can be overwhelming and so when you are ready to come out, you must do it in a way that works best for you. For example this could be face to face, via a letter or video message etc.
- Be prepared for others – Unfortunately, not everyone will have the same reaction. People including friends and family may be shocked/ overwhelmed by what you have told them. Sometimes time may be needed for others to adjust. In this situation it may be helpful to be prepared how you will respond to their reaction.
- You are not alone – Remember you have a lot of support around you. This includes friends, family, colleagues sometimes online discussion boards can be helpful too as you can experience other people’s coming out stories; this may positively effect how you may come out.
- Safety – When you are coming out, try to be in a environment where your safety is not at risk.
- Be proud of yourself – Coming out is a very emotional milestone in your life, you are bound to feel a range of emotions, but most of all you should be proud of yourself for who you are and the courage you have built up to come out.
For more support please see the following websites:
X-plore: provides a safe space for LGBTQ+ young individuals to meet in Exeter and North Devon.
The Intercom Trust: offers a free helpline for those who are apart of the lgbtq+ community as well as providing resources which may help you further.
A list of LGBTQ+ Definitions can be found here.